Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Losing a friend
Clay knew no stranger, approached life with enthusiasm, joy, exhuberance and passion. Everyone who met him liked him, because he made everyone feel so valuable. Clay wasn't afraid to express his feelings, and he was compassionate, complimentary and always congenial.
What a lesson we can learn from Clay who set an example, even in the face of looming terminal illness, of joy and good humor. What a lesson we can learn from Susan, of dedication and loving care even when she was sleep deprived and suffering from the loss of her loving man and the overwhelmingly huge change that would take place in her life.
Those of us who have the privilege of being invited into their inner circle, have been given the gift of meeting Clay's family, too. All of them, kind, loving, exuberant, larger than life personalities who embrace those who loved Clay as their own.
The experience of watching Clay's life slip away over these past few months has made me mindful that it isn't how long we live that matters, it's how well we live. It isn't that we love, but that we love to the fullest extent of our being. And that we remember to laugh out loud, from the inside out, a laugh that takes our breath away- to laugh at ourselves, our foibles, and share laughter with others about our human frailties and the pure comedy of life in general.
Rest in Peace, dear Clay - you will live long and large in our memories of you.